Saturday, Christmas Day, we went on a short drive to the nearby mountains of Mae Rim and picked strawberries for the better part of the morning.
Hello! My name is Stefanie and I live in Thailand. I am recently married to a Thai national and am currently managing my husband's rock climbing business. I have fulfilled my greatest dreams abroad, and currently live in Paradise: also known as Railay Beach! This blog shares stories, advice, anecdotes and hard-learned lessons from my years abroad.
26.12.10
2010, A Northern Christmas in Thailand
Saturday, Christmas Day, we went on a short drive to the nearby mountains of Mae Rim and picked strawberries for the better part of the morning.
18.12.10
Baan Unrak Hip Hop Boys Take the Stage!
12.12.10
Baan Unrak Hip Hop Boys And Their Dreams For A Better Life
5.12.10
Home Sweet Baan Unrak: Sangkla, Thailand
I’ve had 10 volunteers under my care these past couple weeks and today is our last day together. Tomorrow morning we have a killer 5 am wake up call and a 7 hour drive through winding mountains to the Bangkok airport where we will say our final goodbyes, and where I pick up my next group. Looking back at our accomplishments we have done some amazing work together! We planted nearly 1000 tomato plants and ladyfinger herbs, we created a paddock for planting 25x35 meters, we spent days repairing the fence work around the home (after we found a hole kids were sneaking out of at night!) and we've cleaned and painted the front of the entire orphanage home, making the face of Baan Unrak brighter and more uplifting for everyone living here.
This place...words are hard to find to describe what this place does to me. Don't get me wrong, it's not all that easy being here. The work is hard: physical hard labor in a burning sun all day; pink eye, stomach bugs and chest infections tend to spread like wildfire; waking up to scorpions in your pillow and poisonous man eating-centipedes on your doorstep is not uncommon; and living for months on end with no meat, no electricity, no hot water, and absolutely no privacy does strange things to your body and soul.
And yet...I swear I have never been happier in my life than the times I have spent here. Maybe the only experience that comes close is when my big brother's first baby born came into this world. So tiny and frail, Cooper looked up at me with eyes full of trust and need...and that is something I continue to see every day from the children here.
When traveling, we realize that it takes time to fall in love. Visiting somewhere once, twice, even three times is not enough to really take it in through the skin. Making connections, understanding your surroundings, and reveling in the rhythm of a place can take years. I've been working with this orphanage for over a year now, but it feels like only recently have I been 'seeing' with a new set of eyes. The day I came back for the first time in many months since being away, I felt my heart swell. My chest physically expanded and I found myself releasing a long slow breath I didn't know I was holding.
Didi, the spiritual leader who runs this home, said the children were waiting for me. As soon as I stepped out of the taxi, I had Zola and Taji in my arms again. The last time I saw Taji was in January, and he was swimming after me as my boat was driving away. He was shouting my name, and trying to keep a strong smile on his face. The day he was finally back in my arms, Taji looked up at me with the biggest grin I've ever seen from him, and said he always knew I would come back. Yeah, I knew it too.
Every morning we start with meditation on the hill at 5 am. We watch the sunrise and chant a mantra the children study every day: Baba Nam Kevalam, which roughly translates to 'love is all around us.' After working hard in the field all day, we break at 3:30pm waiting for the children to come back from school and proceed to play for hours: tug of war, skipping ropes, soccer, and dancing classes (even the big boys want me to teach them ballet!) Evenings we share meals and stories together, and put the little ones to bed before doing a nighttime yoga session. Wake up tomorrow, and do it all again. Weekends are spent doing relief work and bringing medical supplies to the nearby refugee villages, and taking group trips to the local river spot to teach the kids how to swim. No alcohol, no smoking, no meat, no romantic relationships. It's the ultimate detox for life: cleaning your body, cleaning your soul, and filling your day to day life with laughter, happiness and most importantly hope for the future.
Now I'm back, and I'm staying put for at least another 3 months...After that, I don't know. Somehow I'll have to tear myself away. But until then bring on the love, the games, the physical labor and relief work for Burmese women and children who struggle every day in the jungles between Thailand and Burma.
22.11.10
Loi Kratong Day 2: Festival of FIREWORKS!
21.11.10
Loi Kratong 'Festival of Lights', Thailand
Today and tomorrow, thousands of people will gather beside the canals and rivers. They will prepare their kratong with candles and coins, silently make a wish, and carefully place their kratongs in the water and release them to the current, hoping that the candle will not go out. Its flame is said to signify longevity, fulfillment of wishes and release from past sins.
It is also an expression of gratitude to the goddess of water 'Phra Mae Kongka' for having extensively used the water from the rivers and canals and for her bounty in providing water for the livelihood of the people. The goodies placed in the boat are offerings for her.
Lanterns are also released into the air as part of the celebration. The idea is, when releasing the lantern you're physically letting go of all your negative energy and 'floating away' all of your past troubles. It marks new beginnings and wishes for good luck in the future, so lanterns are used for many Thai festivals (including Loi Kratong.)
It was a beautiful night, and I had a great after party with some great friends. Life is awesome!
19.11.10
Sangklaburi, Life Along The Thai/Burmese Border
Yet, despite what’s going on across the Thai/Burmese border 20 kms away Sangklaburi remains to be the quiet, charming, sleepy little town I have always loved it for. Children still go to school, monks study quietly in the temples and women barter and sell their home cooked foods at the market…life carries on.
Feeling inspired, I took a camera around the town looking for smiles. There are so many sad stories every day, but the people here are resilient and determined to carry on. I went to the local temple for some peace and understanding and came across a gang of ‘mini monks’ who instantly brightened my mood. I also spent the afternoon visiting the Burmese Mon and Karen resettlement villages, lending a hand where I could and learning more about the needs of those living day to day along the border.
....Sangklaburi and The Longest Wooden Bridge in Thailand...
I'm starting to grow roots here in Sangklaburi again. I'll be staying here for the next 3 months with children rescued from the border, and I can honestly say there is nowhere else in the world I would rather be right now.
It's 4 pm now, so the children walk lazily in the heat and stiffness of their school uniforms and chase the chickens down the street as they make their own way home. Motorcycle taxi drivers toot and tease me as they zoom by, and I'm thinking it's time for me to cough up the 1$ it would cost to jump on the back of a bike and escape the humidity! Construction workers lay down their tools and join in a locals' game of football that seems to be a daily occurrence in front of the temple grounds. And all around smiles and polite nods greet me as the locals seem to recognize the 'white girl' that keeps coming back again, and again, and again.
Life surrounds Khao Laem Lake here. This was once the site where 3 rivers joined together, until the 1970's when the Thai government decided to dam the water for better resource management programs in the surrounding villages and provinces. So now, the lake has flooded the lowland valley and the people have adapted their culture to life along a lake---floating village culture.
Villagers meet their needs by fishing in the lake off one-manned motor boats, and building bridges to cross from one side to the other...in fact, the longest wooden bridge in Thailand is found here.
The bridge links the Thai villages to the Mon villages across the lake. The Mon is an ethnic minority group that was once part of a powerful empire in Siam's history. Today, this Mon village is known more as a protective hub for Burmese refugees. This village has been here for years and is now home to several human rights groups caring for the refugees and creating a resistance movement against the military junta across the border. Life on the Mon side is where Burmese culture reigns: the locals still rub their faces with yellow 'tanaka' root to keep away the burning sun, the men don checkered sarongs tied high up on the waist, and chewing beetle nut is more than a past time here...it's a cultural stamp.
Today I chose to visit some of the local sites I haven't seen in a while: the wooden bridge, the streets of the Mon village and the sacred temples and pagodas for the Mon Buddhist population.
**This video was created when I was playing around with my Picasa application...my first attempt ever, so be kind!
14.11.10
News from Thai/Burmese Borders, Nov.2010
8.11.10
Sunday Night Walking Streets, Chiang Mai
In the later years of Buddha (~540 B.C.) villagers complained about his monks traveling through their rice paddy fields. The rainy season is the most important season for growing rice, and the monks were accidentally damaging crops as they traveled the countryside spreading his message. He ordained that the rainy season months should be a time for monks to stay inside the temple walls, perfecting their meditation and focusing on their teachings...this tradition has carried on nearly 1,500 years later.To this day, young men are traditionally ordained as monks at the beginning of the rainy season, and remain inside the temple walls for 3 months straight, the duration of the season. So today, on a clear, bright and sunny day, a small migration of monks set foot outside the temple doors and started their journeys back home. Music and messages of good luck were blasted from megaphones and fireworks shot off in celebration. Some of the monks had suit cases in hand, others had duffel bags, Ipods and cell phones already tuned in as they exited the gates.
*This video was shot from the front gates of a temple, where the festivities mix in celebration of the end of the rainy season and the ambiance of the Sunday night walking street markets.*
*Moo Ping! Grilled pork with sticky rice and dipped in a spicy green chili sauce.*
*A little mood music, a little soft lighting, and even you can fall asleep in a massage chair!*
*Of course, a quick stop to visit my friends (Nim and Ning) at Parasol Inn and to steal some of their food!---this is also when I unknowingly ate a dish loaded with 30 chilis...*
3.11.10
What IS Buddhism?...Teachings & Meditation Tips
He said that one day a king went into the forest in search of truth. He wanted to know what the most important Buddhist teaching was. He asked a hermit (a wise man) his question, to which he answered "Do no evil, do only good, and purify your heart." The king was surprised since he expected a more complex answer. He told the hermit "even a 5 year old knows that already!" and the hermit said "yes, but even an 80 year old man cannot do it."
If I had to sum up Buddhism it would be this: suffering exists and it is felt by every living thing, but it can be overcome if you understand its source and how it manifests itself.
1.) Life is suffering: life includes pain, ageing, disease and ultimately death. We also suffer emotionally: frustration, loneliness, jealousy, hatred, fear, embarrassment, anger, being apart from those we love and disappointment. Suffering touches every living thing.
A woman once approached Buddha with the body of her dead child in her arms, begging him to bring her son back to life. The Buddha told her that if she could fetch mustard seeds he would bring life again, but the seeds had to come from a household that did not know death. She searched everywhere in her village, but could not find one home where loved ones were not lost. She returned to Buddha that evening and said "there is death in every family, everyone knows death. I understand your teaching." Buddha then replied "things are not always the way we want them to be, but we can learn to understand them. Like medicine, once you know the cause of your illness you can find the cure."
4.) The 8 Fold Path is the guide to end suffering: practice these 8 things every day, and you will find happiness. It takes a lot of energy and a lot of practice to constantly be mindful and aware of our thoughts and actions, but that's the point...nothing worth having is ever easy to acquire.
The 8 Fold Path:
- Right view: try to see everything around you with compassion. Wrong views occur when we impose our expectations on our surroundings, we only see things for how they should be or how we fear them to be. We must abandon fear and hope to see things for what they really are.
- Right thought: try to control your thoughts, and get rid of any negativity. We are what we think. So if we think clearly with kindness, that's exactly who we will become.
- Right speech: after right thought, right speech can come naturally. Be kind and respectful when speaking to others...for this is how you gain respect and trust, and also limit suffering for others.
- Right conduct: treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. Practice renunciation, get rid of the complications we cloud our relationships with.
- Right livelihood: "Do not earn your living by harming others. Do not seek happiness by making others unhappy"- Buddha. Find happiness in even the smallest details of your work, for as long as you are not harming others you are doing good.
- Right effort: sometimes we consider discipline on par with struggle, like training our bodies in rigorous workouts. This should not be the case with your spiritual discipline. Don't fight yourself, don't struggle unnecessarily. See things for what they are, and gently work with everything in your life.
- Right mindfulness: always be aware of your thoughts, actions, words...be mindful of the tiniest detail in every experience whether it's performing your job duties, or loving your children.
- Right concentration: this is meditation...Through meditation, we can see clearly if we are following all of the 7 points mentioned above...this is also your outlet, a space and gap in time, to find peace by completely ridding your mind of noise and traffic.
The concepts are so simple, but again so much energy is involved in keeping your focus. I'm an emotional person, I tend to react first then think. This is something I have to work on every day, controlling my impulsive reactions. So every evening, I try to take 20 minutes to sit in silence and meditate. First I meditate on my efforts for that day (am I following the 8 fold path?) then I try to think about nothing. I just empty my mind of all thoughts good or bad or worrisome and I practice sitting in silence...believe me, it's harder than it looks, but I do sleep better at night for it.
So what's the goal? The goal is to end suffering by realizing that we create our own suffering, and that the solutions to our problems are within ourselves, not outside. This is called nirvana, and the beautiful part about Buddhism is that anyone can become a Buddha. Buddha was not a god nor was he endowed with any special powers, he was a man...for Buddha simply translates to ' awakened one.'
Tips to help with meditation:
- sit in a comfy position with your back straight
- place hands in your lap with your left hand on the bottom
- keep eyes closed
- and concentrate on the tip of your nose...concentrate on your breaths since they are like a bridge between your body and your mind
- sit in the same place at the same time every day, and increase your sitting time little by little
If you would like to read more about Buddhism online I recommend using BuddhaNet as a great resource. I also recommend reading the Dalai Lama's Art of Happiness: through conversations with the Tibetan exiled Dalai Lama, the author explores Buddhist teachings in a modern world context.
Why do you think Buddhism has become so popular in Western culture in recent years?
Burmese Elections Just Days Away
November is officially upon us. The nights here in Chiang Mai are starting to get cool, the rain has stopped and Thais everywhere are gearing up for the 'Loy Kratong Festival of Lights' about to take place in a couple weeks. This is a magical time of year. Festivities will be held in all the local temples, paper lanterns will be released into the night air for good luck, and 'kratong' banana leaf boats will be artfully decorated with flowers and incense and released into the currents of the Ping River as a gesture of making merit and giving thanks to the river goddess for giving life and prosperity this year.
Across the border, it's a whole other story right now. November 7th is the expected date for the first elections in 20 years by the Burmese military government. Daw Aung San Suu Kyi will remain under house arrest until the elections are over, and no one's really sure what's going to happen once the election gets under way.
My friends working on the border right now in Mae Sot and Sangklaburi are worried: tensions are running high, violence is expected, and there's talk of minority groups gearing up and banding together for war again.
I myself will be heading to the border again soon, staying with a Burmese orphanage just days after the elections take place, and I'm a little bit nervous about what waits for me there these next few months.
Watch More Videos about the Burmese Military Gov't, Nov.2010
"Burma's 2010 election to be held this November is political theater designed to legitimize the military regime that has violently held power in Burma since 1962. 'This is NOT Democracy' examines the true reasons and historical context for the current election and why the regime's so-called "Roadmap to Democracy" is only a smoke screen to mask the regime's continued human rights abuses and refusal to relinquish leadership of the country to the people's chosen representatives." (17 min. Produced by Burma Partnership and Kestrel Media)
This Is NOT Democracy Part 1, youtube.video
This is NOT Democracy, Part 2
25.10.10
You Can Save The World
"Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared."- Buddha
Mental Patients Sent To Backpacker Hostels
16.10.10
Sleeping With Elephants: Chiang Mai, Thailand
If you have a couple days, stay overnight. If you're limited, the one day visit will be just as awesome. Prices and booking information can be found at the Elephant Nature Foundation website here....
Zipline Adventure Chiang Mai
Jungle Flight Zipline company is based in Chiang Mai and offers an amazing adventure package nearby Doi Saket mountains. It's a couple hours' drive out of the city to get to the forest, but once you're there the jungle takes over. Up close enounter with nature and a low impact adventure activity makes the heart sing!
This company was fun, professional, with great safety standards and highly recommended for a 'get away' day from the city of Chiang Mai. (One recommendation: bring your own water bottle with a carabiner clip, this will cut down on the plastic bottles wasted on tour.)
May and I inspected the company together and had 5 hours of perfect weather, dizzying heights, and laughs all around...especially when May got stuck on the 300 meter zip and had to get rescued!
One day in Chiang Mai with Queen & Stef
A Driving Tour of Chiang Mai: One day in the life of Queen & Stef...
Last night the girls (me, Queen and May) did a bar hopping welcome back tour of Chiang Mai: bourbon & cokes at the Thai rock joint Warm Up; tequila shots with the hip hop d.j. at Zoe in Yellow; a quick beer watching the lady boy show at Spicy; then whiskey & sodas jamming with the live band at Discovery...
It was a great night out, but moving around the next day was a bit painful...so join us, on a typical 'day off' in Chiang Mai city.
We cruise through the old city running errands, passing by beautiful temples Wat Chedi Luang and Wat Phra Singh. We grab lunch off a local noodle shop, before stopping in at the ISV office in Nimmenhamin to catch up on work and emails.